When most men think about meeting someone and heading out on a date, they imagine themselves going with someone they have known for a while, or, at the very least, someone they have spoken to for more than a few minutes, but there are times during the day when we catch a glimpse of someone that we are instantly attracted to. The overwhelming majority of us simply sigh and move on and let our imagination wonder what might have been. If you have ever wondered how to pick up a woman you’ve never met before, here are a few basic tips.

First off, you need to be realistic about your expectations. Flirting with a complete stranger seldom works. You have to hit the right note immediately or you will likely come off as creepy or even a bit scary. Try to notice something about her or something that she is doing that you can engage her in conversation about. If she is reading a magazine while waiting in line for a cup of coffee, make a comment or a quick, funny joke about coffee, what she’s reading or something similar. If the two of you are suffering through something together, like a long transit ride or a line that isn’t moving, don’t complain, make light of the situation. If you can make her laugh and alleviate the stress you are both under, you are well on your way to getting to know her. They say that the quickest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. For women, the quickest way is with humor. You can learn how to pick up a woman easily if you have a quick wit and a great sense of humor.

If you don’t have much time to talk, be ready to give her your number quickly, since neither of you will have time to write down anything. It helps to have a business card handy or a similar way for you to exchange information. Don’t expect her to give you her phone number since you’ve only likely been talking for a few seconds. Even if she is gracious enough to take your card, again, don’t expect a call since the chances of success here are slim. If you do hear from her, start with an apology about how awkward your first meeting was and offer to take her for coffee or a drink in a public place. Learning how to pick up a woman in this kind of environment is going to take practice, but don’t get discouraged if you strike out. Like they say, you fail on 100% of the chances you don’t take.

Finally, know when to let things go. If you approach a stranger in a coffee shop or on the subway and her tone tells you that she isn’t interested, back off immediately. You don’t want to be “that guy” that doesn’t know how to take a hint. You tried, you struck out and hopefully you’ll do better the next time. Learning how to pick up a woman means knowing how to deal with rejection gracefully and maturely.

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