We may not realize it, but in the average day, we have many chances to flirt, some of which we take advantage of and some of which we don’t. Of course, we may put ourselves in situations where flirting is far more commonplace, such as a bar, nightclub or after hours social setting, but flirting really happens throughout the day. Let’s take a look at a few flirting secrets that you can add to your arsenal right away, but be careful, you may end up with more attention than you can handle.

More than any other single action, making direct eye contact with someone is a sure fire way of letting them know that you are interested in them. Working hand in hand with eye contact is the facial expression you accompany it with. A smile, with or without showing teeth can send a clear signal that you are in a good mood and you are feeling a bit playful. Often times, an accomplished flirter doesn’t have to do anything else but smile, make eye contact and than casually look away and a clear message will be sent to the recipient. Direct eye contact and a nice smile are flirting secrets that will make your flirting secret no longer.

One of the best flirting secrets that men seem to have difficulty learning is listening. When most men approach the idea of learning how to flirt, they concentrate on taking an active roll by talking, working on their posture and body language and their tone, but you can send a crystal clear message to someone special by simply making direct eye contact and listening intently to what they have to say. One of the biggest complaints that most single people have is that they don’t have anyone to really talk to. If you can exhibit the ability to not only genuinely listen to what another person is saying but then also ask follow up questions that engage the person you are trying to flirt with, you will make a great impression.

The concept of personal space is genuinely a Western phenomena. One visit to Tokyo or Hong Kong and you will see just how unique the concept of personal space really is. While your posture and body language are a key part of flirting successfully, the proximity in which you are standing to the person you are trying to flirt with is important, too. Stand too close and you give off the air of a stalker or someone who doesn’t respect the person you are speaking too, but stand too far away and you give the impression that you aren’t interested in anything the other person has to say. One advantage of flirting in a noisy place like a bar of club is that you have the ability to lean into the person you are flirting with so you can clearly hear them speak. This “acceptable” invasion of personal space can quickly build trust and lead to something far more interesting. You can employ these flirting secrets the next time you are out in public, so good luck and happy flirting!

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