For as long as anyone can remember, a significant portion of the male population has struggled with the art of asking the fairer sex out on a date. Most men end up flustered, tongue tied, flushed and embarrassed and the girl ends often ends up laughing. If this scenario sounds all too familiar to you, the following tips may help give you the confidence you need to make that all important first contact. Asking girls out isn’t difficult, you simply have to convince yourself that you can do it.

First, you need to decide what you are going to say before you approach the girl you want to talk to. Some men believe that preparation only makes the process more difficult when, in fact, the opposite is true. The more prepared you are for asking girls out, the better you will sound and the more confident you will appear. Since every girl is different, you’ll have to get an idea of what you should say long before you are ready to say it. Try finding a common interest or opening with a compliment of some kind. The worst thing you can do is to start speaking and immediately stumble on your words. Remember, asking girls out isn’t rocket science, but you do need a plan of attack in place to increase your chances of success.

Next, practice what you are going to say, either in your head before you approach her, or, better yet, in a mirror at home or someplace where you won’t be bothered. Hearing yourself say the words will help ease your mind considerably. Sometimes, the oddest part of asking a girl you like out is hearing your own voice speak words you aren’t used to saying. By practicing, you will sound much more natural, and, again, more confident. When asking girls out, confidence is the most important thing.

One method that many guys use is to open with a joke. If you want to go this route, make sure you ask someone else first if the joke you want to use is appropriate. Nothing can end a potential dating relationship faster than one person telling the other a joke that is either completely inappropriate or just not funny. You can try to be self effacing, but don’t come off as sounding pathetic or that your self directed humour is a sign that you actually have no self confidence. It is the men that are most comfortable with who they are and are the most confident that can make fun of themselves the best.

Finally, it is important to force yourself to relax and breathe normally when asking girls out. Although you may think that you aren’t communicating with her, you begin to send signals the moment you approach her. If your body language is all wrong and you are practically making yourself hyperventilate because you are so nervous, you may have blown your opportunity before you even open your mouth. Relax, take a deep breath and try to act naturally.

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