For some men, flirting comes as naturally as riding a bike, but for others, flirting is an art form that takes years of practice and dozens of public failures to master. Since every woman reacts to flirting in a different way, it can be difficult to make blanket statements about styles or techniques that are guaranteed to work but in most cases, the following list of Do’s and Don’ts are as reliable as advice gets. Flirting with women can be challenging, but it isn’t brain surgery.

Do – Try to be funny. Even a failed joke, assuming it wasn’t obscene or insulting, can often lead to a laugh and are usually a good way to break the ice. A joke shows that you can think fast and comment on the situation you find yourselves both in and it is also a good way to “put yourself out there” and show the person you are trying to flirt with that you don’t mind taking risks. If a joke doesn’t work, it’ll be pretty obvious right away. Flirting with women may be many things, but it isn’t complicated. If your joke breaks the ice, you’ll know it.

Don’t – Start by complaining about something. Even if you find yourself in a tedious and boring situation, opening up a conversation with a complaint only shows you to be petty and unoriginal. You would be much better off starting with a joke or a comment or just about anything compared to a complaint. When you open with a complaint, you are sending negative energy to someone you want to be interested in you. It fails the logic test and it will likely lead to a failed attempt at flirting. Flirting with women should be fun and light hearted and opening with a complaint sabotages you before you even get started.

Do – Exhibit self confidence but not cockiness. While there are some women that enjoy the frat boy, alpha male type who oozes confidence, most women find that type of guy obnoxious and you will immediately alienate yourself from the women you wish to flirt with. You can show your confidence by telling a self effacing joke, by having solid posture and by making direct eye contact and smiling. You can even show your confidence by being polite and gracious if you feel that she isn’t interested, you never know, she may find that very thing attractive. Flirting with women should boost your confidence, even if you don’t succeed.

Don’t – Approach a women to flirt with if you’ve had too many or if you can’t keep a thought straight in your head. There is a reason why alcohol is often called liquid courage, it has a history of getting people in situations that they wouldn’t have entered into otherwise. If you are finding it difficult to string together a sentence, don’t try flirting. You’ll either end up saying something you regret or doing something you’ll regret. Flirting with women should only be done with a clear head.

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